Preparing to Leave an Abusive Cluster B Disordered Individual: Checklist

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Any written rules|regulations imposed by the abuser
Evidence of abuse of previous partners
Proof that you were being financially marginalized-bank statements-texts-”allowance” agreements
Records proving you provided most of the child care|primary care of the child
Personal journal-labeled “attorney notes” of physical and nonphysical incidents
A calendar indicating dates and frequency of abuse
Video recordings of arguments or conversations if your state is a one-party consent state, check HERE.
Audio recordings of arguments or conversations if your state is a one-party consent state, check HERE.
Photos or video of any injuries keep copies in a safe place, for example: a safe deposit box in your name only, a firebox in a location the XCB does not have access to (a trusted family member), 1 hardcopy, and flash drive or memory card you should also have backed up in a Google Drive or Dropbox not associated with your email address, in fact, you should create a new email address that is not similar to your regular email address, password protected with a password that you have never used prior.
Medical reports of your injuries or stress-related diagnosis
Medical reports of your family members’ injuries
Police reports
Emails, texts or social media messages from the abuser
Screenshots of repeated calls, emails, texts or voicemails from the abuser
Statements and testimony from any witnesses
Documentation showing workplace incidents where abuser stalked or harassed you
Photos of weapons used to harm or threaten
Screenshots or links showing abuser shared of images or videos you did consent to
Photos or video of items damaged or in disarray
Screenshots of any social networking site containing evidence of abuse, harassment or stalking
Recordings of voicemails or phone conversations
Details of any stalking incidents download stalking log.
Veterinary records of any pet abuse